The answer is always…

"The answer is always love."

This has been my mantra over the last week, as I surrender to the flow of abundance and practice loving my money. The question I posed last week was how does a wholehearted savvy business owner approach challenges? Right now my challenge is the tangle of money & self-worth. The answer revealed to me was completely unexpected.

When a clients inquires about their marketing, my reply is "What is your desired outcome or end result?" This is important for their online marketing because we begin with their overall vision first and then work backwards to determine the best strategy of social media sites, the type of content, their most engaging audience, images, etc to support the development and growth into their desired outcome.

So, I used this question on myself "Adeah, what is your desired outcome in your relationship with money? And in relationship with your self-worth?" Then I held space open for the answers and listened carefully throughout my daily activities.  (Side note- This is an important part to developing into your desired outcome! Be open and listen for the answers to your questions.)

The heart of my desired outcome with money  is to hold the presence of grace and ease in my life.  It is not actually the money! It is the feelings I truly desire to experience. Knowing my desired outcome I started to reverse engineer a process to develop the presence of grace and ease in my life.

The process:

  • Self-love is the first step to elicit inner peace around my fears and challenges with money.
  • Be certain that the challenges are actually part of the process of my desired outcome.  The fear will pass. The other side of this process will be worth enduring the shadows (fear, doubt, resistance, etc.).
  • Weave unbridled joy into every action surrounding money.  Feel the grace and ease right now with each action associated with money.

Crazy! Huh? These answers were not what I could have predicted. Yet, I recognize this process with my clients who embrace wholehearted marketing for their business. The women who have the most success with their marketing, approach each challenge with self-love, faith and enthusiasm for the unknown.

What are you stuck with in your marketing? Ask yourself "What is my desired out come?" and wait for the answer to show-up.  I would love to hear your desired outcomes! Please leave a comment by posting your desired results with your marketing challenges.

Balance…it’s the other white meat

11-a-balanced-life by Americanhell.comExploring life as a mother and a business owner is a fascinating adventure.  I have thoughts racing through my mind daily about finding balance between the many responsibilities that come with these titles in my life.

And just as often there are few, if any actions which satisfy my cravings for the fairness I seek between being a great mom and a successful business owner (not to mention the handful of other hats I wear!).  To be fair I felt this as an employee when I first became a mom; however in my mind the burden of success is higher for business owners than it is for employees.

My desire is to be all I can be in both aspects of my life.  As the years go on I am questioning if this balance can be achieved! So I have decided to search for the answer to this challenge.  Where do I begin?

Be careful what you set your heart upon-- for it will surely be yours.
-James Baldwin

What is Balance? A state of equilibrium or equality of distribution.

What is equilibrium? A stable situation in which forces cancel one another.

What is force? Coerce: to cause to do through pressure or necessity, by physical, moral or intellectual means.

This would mean my desires to be a good mother require me to coerce my desires to be a successful business owner in order to achieve a state of equality between these two desires.  Perhaps it is not balance I seek.

I invested in loving my kids from the day they were born and will continue to do so, without fail, for the rest of my life. I never “balanced” my life, I “optimized” it! - Janet Hanson, Founder & CEO of 85 Broads

While googling "balance" the  majority of the links lead to art & design websites. Every piece of information regarding balance included something about symmetry and asymmetry...now I am on to something!

The Greek meaning of symmetry is to measure together.

In reference to art and math symmetry means: An exact matching of form and arrangement of parts on opposite sides of a boundary, such as a plane or line, or around a central point or axis.

Symmetry is what I am seeking- a wholeness between the opposing parts. For me that means between being a fabulous mom (part 1) and being a fabulous business woman (part 2).   However I can recognize these two parts are only a small piece of the larger picture- back to all those other titles - that creates my life.  I can see this beautiful image- like a mandala that is my life.

Can you relate to this? If so how do you define this sweet spot? Leave a comment on how you create and define "balance" between the priorities in your life.